Sometimes Fandom is disappointing...

[lotrspnfangirl]

So today I was in a friendly disagreement about tagging on A03. At least, I felt it was friendly. The actual argument doesn't really matter-- there was a million opinions on the matter -- but one member of the group was really getting into it with me. I kept it respectful, professional, and I thought that we were just having a disagreement.

Then, I get this in a private message;



I was like... in shock. Like, are you kidding me? We have a disagreement and YOU have the right to call me out on my body type? What is this, high school? I didn't know what to do, and then of course she blocked me after telling me I 'deserved it because I was arguing with her'.

So... I may have been a bit childish too but in the thread I thanked her for calling me fat and for being such a great part of the SPN family. I also made a post to the group which was deleted (which I had expected) and that's below. Well, people came out of the woodwork, messaging me about how they'd been harassed by her too, tagging the admins, etc and the main post was deleted and she's not in the group anymore. I don't know if she left on her own or if she was booted, but I'm glad she's gone.

I don't understand why this was okay. It wasn't okay, it's never okay to attack someone personally. And I'm just... still in shock that I logged into my phone to a shitty message like that.

Comments

[adelheide.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, there are small people who feel that if they tear others down, it will somehow improve their life or whatever. These people are called bullies and they rarely change unless they really want to.

The up side is, these people tend to alienate so many others that eventually, no one wants anything to do with them. Which may have already happened to this person. Which is why they turned to the annonymity of the interwebs to bully some more.

[lotrspnfangirl.livejournal.com]

I just feel bad because you know she treats people in her RL the same way and that's NO way to treat anybody. I'm glad she is gone from the group, it's unfortunate that she will continue to enforce that onto other people however.

[adelheide.livejournal.com]

Bullies tend to be cowards. If they do treat people like that in RL, all it takes is one person standing up to them to get them to scuttle back into the shadows.

The internet takes away that possible face-to-face confrontation, when makes bullies bolder. Unfortunately, I'm sure she's miserable in her own life. Wish I could feel bad about that.