Sometimes Fandom is disappointing...

[lotrspnfangirl]

So today I was in a friendly disagreement about tagging on A03. At least, I felt it was friendly. The actual argument doesn't really matter-- there was a million opinions on the matter -- but one member of the group was really getting into it with me. I kept it respectful, professional, and I thought that we were just having a disagreement.

Then, I get this in a private message;



I was like... in shock. Like, are you kidding me? We have a disagreement and YOU have the right to call me out on my body type? What is this, high school? I didn't know what to do, and then of course she blocked me after telling me I 'deserved it because I was arguing with her'.

So... I may have been a bit childish too but in the thread I thanked her for calling me fat and for being such a great part of the SPN family. I also made a post to the group which was deleted (which I had expected) and that's below. Well, people came out of the woodwork, messaging me about how they'd been harassed by her too, tagging the admins, etc and the main post was deleted and she's not in the group anymore. I don't know if she left on her own or if she was booted, but I'm glad she's gone.

I don't understand why this was okay. It wasn't okay, it's never okay to attack someone personally. And I'm just... still in shock that I logged into my phone to a shitty message like that.

Comments

[fairyniamh]

It saddens me that there is such ugliness in the world, let alone in the fandoms we seek solace in. I am sorry you went through that, but yay you for standing up for yourself and for losing all that weight. *hugs*

We have to remember that haters gonna hate. That's okay though, we can use them to pave our driveways.

[lotrspnfangirl.livejournal.com]

It's extremely disappointing and I'm glad that in the group it was taken care of quickly. I just hope, somehow, she realizes that she was in the wrong and she shouldn't be treating anyone that way -- in fandom OR in real life.

Thanks babe *hugs*